{"id":103,"date":"2019-09-10T08:59:33","date_gmt":"2019-09-10T08:59:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/?p=103"},"modified":"2019-09-10T08:59:33","modified_gmt":"2019-09-10T08:59:33","slug":"how-can-you-turn-a-casual-hookup-into-a-more-meaningful-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/how-can-you-turn-a-casual-hookup-into-a-more-meaningful-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Turn A Casual Hookup Into Long-Term Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lots of people enjoy meeting new people, spending time together and enjoying a variety of activities, including sex, without expectations or commitments.\u00a0 These sorts of casual relationship or hookups can be fun, flirtatious and exciting.\u00a0 They may be one-night stands<\/a>, may last a few weeks or last a few months.<\/p>\n

Whatever these hookups are, sometimes one or both of you find yourself desiring a more meaningful relationship.\u00a0 This is not too uncommon because as you learn more about each other and spend more time together, it’s only natural that feelings can grow and desires can change.<\/p>\n

In today’s world of dating and casual relationships, many relationships begin very casually as a one-time hookup or week-end fling.\u00a0 The good news is that many hookups do evolve into more meaningful relationships.\u00a0 It happens all the time.\u00a0 There is hope.\u00a0 However, it does require that both parties share the same desire for a more meaningful relationship.\u00a0 If only you do and your hookup does not, then it simply won’t happen.<\/p>\n

But, you will never know if things can work out the way you would like them to unless you pursue the relationship.\u00a0 Here are some things you can do to explore the possibility of a more meaningful relationship with your casual hookup safely and openly.<\/p>\n

First, be honest with yourself.\u00a0 Carefully examine what you really want out of any relationship and this one in particular.\u00a0 If continuing as casual friends with casual sex isn’t meeting your needs, then what will?\u00a0 If you now desire a more meaningful relationship and your hook up does not, do you continue as is or end the relationship?\u00a0 Knowing what you want is critical to moving forward successfully.<\/p>\n

Second, if you’re ready to give it a try, begin engaging your hookup in new ways and more often.\u00a0 Instead of getting together once a week on the weekend for some great sex, try to hang out during the week for dinner or drinks.\u00a0 Connect with them on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram more, friend them if you haven’t already.\u00a0 Try things like this for a few weeks to test the water and see if your hookup plays along or seems resistant.<\/p>\n

Third, if your hookup seems receptive to these changes and even appears to be reciprocating in a more engaged relationship, then set up a time to talk about your feelings and desires with your casual hookup.\u00a0 Set aside some time to have an honest and in-depth conversation about changing the relationship to a more meaningful one.\u00a0 Share what you would like and listen to what they would like.\u00a0 It’s possible that they are having some of the same feelings and desires.\u00a0 It’s also possible that they are not and would like things to continue as is.\u00a0 Share thoughts and feelings, don’t pressure anyone and allow both of you time to reflect on your conversation.<\/p>\n

Finally, set time for a follow-up conversation in the near future and stick to it.\u00a0 This allows time for independent thoughtful consideration about the conversation and lets both of you think about what each other shared.\u00a0 This follow-up meeting can be the first date of a more meaningful relationship, or it can be the last time you will see each other.\u00a0 Realize that you may have to accept either of these outcomes or anything in between, but be true to your feelings and desires.<\/p>\n

If the relationship ends here, then walk away knowing you did everything you could to move it forward and shared what you felt, but it was just not the right person.\u00a0 If the follow-up conversation opens the path to a more meaningful relationship then use that get together as a first date and let the relationship develop naturally from there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Lots of people enjoy meeting new people, spending time together and enjoying a variety of activities, including sex, without expectations or commitments.\u00a0 These sorts of casual relationship or hookups can be fun, flirtatious and exciting.\u00a0 They may be one-night stands,… Read moreHow to Turn A Casual Hookup Into Long-Term Relationship<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":70,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-103","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-advice","content-layout-excerpt-thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/103","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=103"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/103\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":104,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/103\/revisions\/104"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/70"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=103"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=103"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.justbewild.com\/wild-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=103"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}